I’ve been debating for some time about whether I should or shouldn’t do this post. I try to post only funny/semi-funny or light posts. I’m not one to post controversial topics. Not because I don’t know any but simply its not why I started this blog. I got enough scary/not funny shit happening IRL I try not to bring it here and I know we're supposed to do controversial topic next week but this is about parenting so I'm putting it out there today. I'm sure I can come up with something else next week.
I know that some people who read this post it will have big reactions. Some of you will agree with what I say and others will think “who the fuck does she think she is judging like this”. Honestly I’m not judging (well maybe a little this time). I never judge or at least I don’t judge out loud. We all have different opinions and I never try to tell someone’s opinion is wrong and mine is right.
Now first let me tell what I’m talking about. A couple of weeks ago I went to my personal FB page. I didn’t have much time so I just looked at a couple of post on my news feed and one of the news feeds was from a friend that said something along the lines of “Lets all keep so and so (also a friend of mine on FB) in our hears and minds today as her child died”. Anytime I hear a child has died I just can’t handle this. I’m not big on religion but when a child does die and a fucking psychopath lives and kills and lives to be 100 I just don’t understand and wonder how GOD or whoever could allow this to happen. After I read her post one my kids/husband or something needed something so I logged off and went about my day but I just kept thinking about this woman and how she must be feeling today. My heart broke for her and her family and I hoped that she had a good support system that would get her thru this terrible TERRIBLE tragedy. Later in the day I had time to go back on FB and saw another post from another friend also saying how sad it was that so and so lost her child and if we could keep her and her family in our prayers. So than I went on her (the woman who lost her child) page because honestly I didn’t remember her ever posting that her child was sick in anyway or anything like that and my heart was breaking for her and her loss. I did know that her son was young (still an infant) and I had seen some pictures of him but since we weren’t close friends we didn’t have much contact on FB except for her reading my posts and me hers AND by going to her page I found out how other friends knew of her tragedy and the reason for my post today.
When I went on her page one of the first posts that I saw was from her stating something like “I am so sad. Our beloved child died last night. I am so heart broken. We didn’t expect this, it was so sudden. We’re not even sure what he died from, there are tests that have to be done to see if it was from SIDS or something else”. She posted this sometime that morning. One of my first thoughts was WHAT THE FUCK, I MUST BE READING THIS WRONG???? I had to read her post over and over again and I still couldn’t believe what I was reading. Her child had died just some hours ago (probably less than 12) and she was posting this on FB. I hate to judge people and I know people grieve in different ways but this THIS I just, this was unbelievable. What kind of a society have we become? When did FB become out lifeline to everyone and everything.
I have never claimed to love my kids more than any other parent. I think sometimes you can tell that a parent doesn’t like their child by the way he/she is treated and sometimes you hear adults telling stories of how their parents treated them and you can’t help but think they really weren’t care for/loved as much as they should have. With that said if my child had died unexpectedly or from an illness or anything else I doubt it that I would have the will to live and probably the only thing that would keep me going is that I have another child to care for. You would absolutely NOT catch me on FB or twitter posting the death of my child less than 24 hours after it happened. I can't even imagine being able to do anything eat/drink/talk or anything else for a long time. Whenever something bad has happened to me (thankfully nothing ever major) my first instinct was NEVER and NEVER WILL BE “I’ll post this on FB”.
Am I the only one seeing the wrong in this? Her child had died and she was posting this on FB hours after it happened. I have some friends on FB that definitely post very personal stuff. Sometimes reading their posts I feel ashamed like I shouldn’t know this info, like I’m invading their private thoughts and than I wonder why they would post it for practically the whole world to see. Why have people started putting everything on FB? Why has FB become a place where anything and everything is posted?
This woman who lost her child broke my heart. I felt so terrible for her and her loss. I can’t even imagine what it feels like to lose a child. I had hoped that she would be able to get thru this with help from family and friends but honestly after I found out that she posted the death of her child on FB hours after it happened a part of me didn’t feel sorry for her. I still felt terrible for the child. A boy who would never get to experience his first day of school, first kiss (from a girl or boy which ever he chose), get married, have a job. I felt sorry that he was never given that chance. And I wondered why he was never given that chance. Why does GOD or whoever decided that some kids are never give a chance at these things? But as far as the mother…I just didn’t feel much for her. In a way I felt that she was a bad mother. I don’t know what kind of a mother she was when her child was alive, maybe the best there is BUT and this is my whole point HOW COULD SHE POST THE DEATH OF HER CHILD ON FB LESS THAN 24 HOURS AFTER HE HAD DIED UNEXPECTEDLY….HOW??????Click on the link below and read what other bloggers had to say about parenting.