Thursday, April 25, 2013

What would you do over if you could??

Do over. A chance to go back in time (if only we could) and correct a mistake which you made. Many (if not all) people would love to have at least one do over. Sometimes the do over is minor like remembering to buy flowers for your wife on your anniversary so that now you're not sleeping on the couch and other times its more serious. I think we can all say that when we were young we did things that we wish we hadn’t. I know there have been many times when I’ve said shit I can't believe I was so stupid/naive to do that I wish could have a do over to make so so right. Thankfully I’ve never done anything so terrible (except for one) that I’ll have to live with the consequences for the rest of my life. Now don’t get me wrong. I’ve done my share of stupid things (some very stupid things) but overall I don’t have anything major (except for this one thing). Honestly if I had a chance for a do over I wouldn't take it (except in one case). Why not you ask? Well because I’m petrified that if I did have a chance to do something over (like not date a particular guy) that my life would go in a completely different direction & I wouldn’t have my kids today. True I might have other kids & I’m sure I would love them just as much as these but THESE are mine and I can’t imagine having others. I strongly believe that everything happens for a reason. It might not be a right reason but all the choices that I’ve made so far have led me to where I am today. And even thought there are times when I wish things were different at the end of the day I have my kids and that’s the greatest wish that came true for me.
So what’s this one thing that I mentioned above? SMOKING. I started smoking when I was a teenager. Back then I never thought I would get addicted (see young and stupid above). It wasn’t peer pressure. I had the type of friends that literally begged me not to smoke. They were a couple of years older than me and were smokers themselves and basically told me that I would get addicted. I was all like “please never gonna happen. I’ll smoke a little and then I’ll stop”. Now almost 20 years later I’m still trying to stop. I’ve tried to stop more times than I care to count. I’ve gone for months not smoking but at the end I’ve always started again. I’m still not giving up because I do want to stop. I don’t want my kids to grow up and smoke “because that’s what mom and dad did so it’s ok”. My husband and I always tell them how stupid & dangerous it is to smoke but then we lite up and so we’re a bunch of hypocrites. There are so many times when I’m so sick and tired of smoking. I don’t even enjoy it most of the time. It’s the nicotine, it’s the drug that makes you do it over and over again even when you don’t want to. If I could go back in time I swear I wouldn’t think of taking a puff of a cigarette let alone smoking a whole one. I’m not giving up on the whole stop smoking thing and I know I’ll be successful at it one day I just hope it won’t be too late.

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Friday, April 19, 2013

An Very Inspiring Blogger

Yep that’s me. A Very Inspiring Blogger at least according to My Life In The Nutt House who was very gracious to nominate me for this award. Thanks Angi! Also thanks for being so patient with me and not taking the award back since you nominated me 2 weeks ago. There’s this sucky thing going around and it’s really pissing me off. I have work at work….can you imagine…as if!!!

Anyway with every award there are rules so the rules for this award are

1. Display award logo on blog

2. Link back to the person who gave you the award.

3. State 7 things about yourself.

4. Nominate 15 other bloggers for this award and link back to them

7 Random Things About Me

I wasn’t born in America. I came here when I was 10 so many many years ago. Because I’m from Eastern Europe people who meet me for the first time say I come of a little rough around the edges but once they get to know me I’m funny and lovable!

I recently started working out and even thought I complain about it ALL THE TIME I’m so grateful that someone has volunteered to work out with me so I can finally get my ass in shape.

I have a hernia on my belly button that I’ve had since I had my second son. Until recently (5 months) I didn’t know it was a hernia, I thought my belly button had become all discombobulated due to my pregnancy and the fact that I was HUGE. Happy to report I’m having surgery very soon to remove the hernia. Will blog about it in the future.

I was watching House Hunters on TV last night and a couple bought a 3 BR/2Bath house with a huge back yard for $164,000 in Tulsa, OK. In NY I couldn’t buy a studio apartment for that price. One of the many reasons I would love to move out of NY. A back yard for my kids to play.

I talk a lot. I talk a lot about my kids. To anyone! I can’t help it nor do I want to. They’re my kids and if you don’t want to hear about them you can leave but I’m not going to stop talking about them.

When I was younger I loved driving. I couldn’t wait to turn 18 to drive. Now every time I have to drive I feel like I’m being punished for committing a major crime. My husband loves big SUV’s. I’m trying to convince him that “Yes of course you should get one”. I’m about 5’5” I will never drive a big car. Hopefully my plan will work. Don’t be a snitch and rat me out!!

It’s hard to believe that until just a couple of months ago I didn’t even know this whole blogging thing existed and now I absolutely love all the bloggers that I’ve met so far.

Those were really interesting…right??? Listen I’m so grateful for all the awards I’ve received but truth be told there are only so many things about me before its starts being repetitive shit and no one wants to read that. I’m trying to be C-R-E-A-T-I-V-E.

 15 Bloggers I Nominate

This is all I’ve got. Again the whole work thing and I haven’t had a chance to look for new bloggers.

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Thursday, April 18, 2013

My Favorite Time

Times sure have changed. When I was in school summer vacations meant so much to me. No school, no homework, no waking up early, no school cafeteria food. The summers were mine to do as I pleased. I went to the beach, pool, hung out with my friends really late, sleepovers. And because I’m born in the summer I love the hot weather, summer time was my time.

Now things are different. I have a job and my summer vacation consists of if I'm lucky a week off. True that I have 3 weeks off for the whole year but with two small kids I always have to save my days for when they need me. It’s no longer my time it’s my kids’ time. It’s their time for no homework, sleeping in late, no cafeteria lunches and I? Well it’s our time to make sure that they do enjoy their summers like we did. We take them to the parks, beaches, pools, lakes, water parks and theme parks. Since we both have full time jobs we try to make the most of the summer. That means dinner is always a little late cause once I’m home (hubs works from home) we take the kids outside. We try to do this everyday because summer lasts only 2 months and before you know it its over. I want them to enjoy their summer vacations. I know how much I enjoyed mine and I want them to experience it just as much as I did. We try to go away at least for a week during the summer when we can. This year I think we’re going to go visit the in-laws in Europe. And I don’t feel sorry for me. I love my in-laws (probably the only one) but they are great. It’s still too early but we’ll see as the months roll by.

Do I miss my summer vacations? Of course I do. Who wouldn’t want to have the whole summer off to do nothing but lounge on the beach or by the pool? I still do enjoy them but on another lever. But it’s the circle of life. My parents had their time, I had mine, now it’s my kids.

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Thursday, April 4, 2013

Acrostic Poem

Things that happen everyday
Happy things
Irrelevant things
Naughty things
Good things
Sad things

Tantrum throwing things
Hot things
Awesome things
Tearful things

Hazardous things
Amazing things
Purple things
Pain in the ass things
Exceptional things
Naked things

Ecstatic things
Volatile things
Erotic things
Rainy things
Yearning things
Dangerous things
Angry things
Yellow things

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Wednesday, April 3, 2013

Open Letter to the School Chancellor of New York

As a parent I’m pretty tough when it comes to school. I (we, my husband and I) have always been very vocal with our son about school and homework. We’ve told him and will continue to tell him that school and homework are not just important but SUPER IMPORTANT. I make sure I check my sons homework EVERY NIGHT. When he started kindergarten I made sure I sat with him every night to watch him do his letters and numbers and showing him how to do it the right way. He still has an awful handwriting but at least he’s not a bad speller….he’s only in 2nd grade after all. I’m not expecting some great excellence from him when it comes to tests. He has always done well to very well and I’ve always told him how proud I am. I know how bright my child is and know where to push him more and where to back off. With all this in mind I’ve decided to write an open letter to the School Chancellor of New York, Dennis M. Walcott.

Dear Mr. Walcott,

Let me start this letter off by saying how very disappointed I am in the New York school system. I have a son who is currently in the 2nd grade. When he entered Kindergarten he had to attend an ESL class due to the fact that my husband and I spoke to him only in our native language. At first school was a confusing and scary place for him as he didn’t understand what the teacher was telling him. As timed passed he become more and more comfortable as he learned the language. While he was in Kindergarten his nightly homework usually consisted of writing one letter and one number multiple times to practice writing, a basic math sheet and reading a small book. I didn’t complain about his homework back than because I thought that since he didn’t understand the English language so well this was more than enough for him. Overall since he was in Kindergarten and he didn’t understand English I was satisfied with his work level.

When he entered 1st grade, a full speaking English student I assumed (BIG mistake) that his homework would increase. After all he spoke English fluently. The homework however didn’t increase by much. A couple of sentences (once per week), writing spelling words multiply times (once per week) and 1 or 2 math sheets per day and reading a small book.

As the months went on I realized this was way too little homework. He wasn’t being challenged at all. He would be done with him homework in matter of minutes. I saw in his face that the homework was way to easy for him. I spoke with him teacher during the first Parent-Teacher Conference about challenging him more and she said many parents were complaining about the work load being too much (?) and she couldn’t give anymore but suggested that I print out on my own some sheets and give to him. So I did just that. Every night he got a couple of more worksheets. I should also mention that even thought he had in my opinion mastered the English language by the end of Kindergarten when he took the ESL test at the end of the year he failed it by some points so he was in a half-half ESL class for 1st grade. This was probably one of the main reasons why I still in a way understood why the work load was smaller. His teacher had expressed to me that my son and a couple of other children were excelling greatly while others were struggling and she had to make sure the ones struggling were understanding the work.

When my son started 2nd grade (he has passed and excelled on his ESL test) and was placed in a English only speaking glass I (foolishly) thought he was finally going to receive the work load suited for him…..WRONG. This year it seems his work load has decreased.

My son right now is a P lever reader (For those that don’t know he’s approximately a reading level of a 3rd grader at this time of the year, so essentially he’s a year ahead in reading). I personally don’t look at this as some great accomplishment. Some kids learn to read faster and some slower. Eventually if the school and the parents are doing their job right they’ll learn how to read any word. But my son is proud as he gets promoted to new reading levels and I’m also….he’s my son and of course I will be happy for him in anything he does for school. He and another boy are the only students in his class that are now P lever readers. Most other kids are B or C, some D and the rest E or F. You don’t have to know reading levels to see the reading level difference but back to my original though, reading is reading and all kids will (hopefully) learn how read eventually.

My big issue is with his homework this year. His homework consists of mainly 1-2 math pages per night and usually once a week some kind of writing assignment. This takes him approximately 5-10 minutes to do. What the hell? 10 minutes of homework per night.

I’ve complained to his teacher who advised me that she’s not allowed to give out more than that per the school rules. She suggested that I on my own give him extra work. So that’s what I’ve done. Every night I give him extra math sheets and writing sheets to do. This is not a problem for me. I take full responsibility for my children. I do believe it is my job to make sure they do well in school. It is my job to make sure they are excelling academically. I’m not one of those parents that put all the work on the teachers and is shocked when their kids fail. I work with my sons teacher to make sure that he is doing what he’s suppose to be doing. The problem is what about all the other kids? Why are kids not being challenged more? Why are we letting them off easily? I know some kids need more help than others but the ones that are doing well why are they being put in the same class room as the ones that are behind. I’m doing all that I can as a parent but the school is failing miserably. My sons school is suppose to be one of the really good ones which makes me wonder what are the bad schools teaching. I’ve spoken with my sons teacher and she doesn’t know the answer. She suggested I talk to the principal for next year but even she says she doesn’t think it will make much of a difference since that is the curriculum the teachers are given and that’s that. When they are young and their brains so fresh is when we should be challenging them.

This problem really concerns me because these kids are our future and if they continue at this pace we’re going to be left with some really dumb adults to run our country. Please Mr. Walcott do something about this. Challenge kids more. Trust me they can handle it. We parents are willing to sit with them and make sure the work is done but we need your help and support. Please don't fail our children and us.  

Thank you,

A Very Disappointed (but hopeful) Parent