This week I was asked by the wonderful http://cloudywithachanceofwine.com/ to participate in Theme Thursday. This week’s theme is “How Having Kids Kills Your Sex Life”. At first I didn’t think I could do this theme cause let me be honest my sex life is dead…right?? Well not completely so after thinking about it for some time here it is.
When I first met my husband we were in our early 20’s. We were in our prime and we took full advantage of the situation. It was all the time….didn‘t matter when or where. Our best was 8 times in one day…hell yeah I’m bragging!!. Now I’m just no longer in the mood. After waking up early, going to work, coming home cooking dinner, doing homework, giving the kids a shower & put them to bed the last thing on my mind is sex. At that point all I want to do is sleep ALONE!!!
v When we were young our bodies were tight, lean and fit…now after about 10 minutes we have to take a break or one of us will have a heart attack.
v Let me put it this way; We have two places where the deed is done
- In the bathroom (this is what we call being "spontaneous") while I hold on to dear life to the sink
- In the "kids bedroom (our kids sleep with me in the big bed)", cause nothing says romance like twin size bunk beds with super Mario & Lightning McQueen cheering you on.
v Romance now a days is “ok the kids are asleep and I need to go to bed early cause I need to wake up early for work so I can give you a fast 5 minutes…go, go, go”
v There is no morning sex….the kids always wake up before us
v There is not spontaneous sex…the kids are always there
v Having sex for a long time use to be for 2 hrs, now 30 minutes means its his birthday. I never have to buy him a gift anymore!!
v Lingerie means I’m not wearing grandma underwear
v Before kids its was 3 to 4 times a week now we’re lucky to do it once a week although once every two weeks is more like it.
Don’t get me wrong, I love my husband and even thought we're not that young anymore and we have so many more responsibilities then before I still find him very attractive, it's just having two full time jobs (work and home) with two small kids is very exhausting. We try to make time for each other but after doing everything we can to make some time for us we’re exhausted from all the work of preparing the time that we end up sleeping or just relaxing on the couch. We’re hoping once the kids move out we’ll have more time but than we’ll be in our 50’s which will create a whole new set of problems.
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