Thursday, March 21, 2013

Funerals

What can I say about funerals? I hate funerals. Even thought I may not show it thru my blog I am a sensitive person. Funerals bring out the worst in me. For the last couple of years it seems every year I’ve had to attend one or two funerals.

I just really really hate them. It’s the final goodbye and I’m never ready to say that. I always feel that I need one more day. My worst funeral experience was for a 14yr old boy. I really didn’t want to see the body. He was just a child. Children don’t deserve to die. But I had to because his parents were next to him and I wanted to say to them how sorry I was for their loss. I tried not to look at his face but the eyes just go there and I will never forget looking at him and remembering who he was.

I think all funerals need to be closed casket. Remember the people the way they were not what they look like in death.

When I die one day I hope my sons and my husband (if he’s still alive) have the good sense to have a closed casket or have me cremated. At that point I’ll be dead and I won’t care. I never understand people that have all these demands on how they want their funeral to be, which casket they want, food to be served after the funeral, the kind of stone they want at their grave. Who cares…you’re dead; stop wasting living people’s money. Funerals cost a fortune and I’m sure even though loved ones feel obligated to give the best funereal they can in reality they would have preferred to do something very small or nothing at all to save money. Once you’re dead do you really need the $10,000 casket….NO! You’re dead, you’re going to rotten any way you look at it so don’t spend money on unnecessary things.

I want my funeral to be simple; simple casket (unless they cremate me) & a small spot at a grave. Please no big stones or strobe lights that say…HEY LOOK HOW MUCH MONEY MY FAMILY SPENT ON ME (and now they're bankrupt), THEY MUST HAVE REALLY LOVED ME!!



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10 comments:

  1. YES to all of that!! It's almost as is people spend a fortune/open the casket to torture themselves. Like they feel they should be punished for being alive. No, thank you!

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  2. Terribly, terribly sad to attend the funeral of a child. I hope I never have to. I think the whole viewing ritual is odd.

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    1. It’s the worst thing ever. I had hoped that I would never see one and I really hope that I never do again. I don't understand the whole viewing thing either. The dead never look like they did when they were alive and that just makes it worst, seeing them there lying dead...it really is terrible.

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  3. Wakes seem so awkward to me too. A lot of uncomfortable small talk. I appreciate it is to show the loved ones you are there for them, but it seems like a lot of pressure for someone who has just lost a person close to them to have to stand for hours watching other people cry as well.

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    1. Another reason I hate funerals. If someone that is close to me died I don't think I could stand up there for hours greeting people and watching them cry...good point, I totally forgot about that.

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  4. I want to have all my useful bits donated and then burned on a pyre. You know... go old school. And then I want my friends and family to have a huge party with lots of good alcohol and for them all to tell scandalous and hilarious stories about me. Even if they aren't true. ;) No crying, just fond remembering!

    The whole "preservation" thing has always creeped me out a bit, too.

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    1. Sounds like a good way to go. This would be something I would want.

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  5. Funeral expenses are ridiculous. Gouging someone who's grieving at the worst time in their life by selling them a $20000 casket is just beyond gross

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    1. I guess for some business is business but it really is gross. How those people sleep at night is beyond me.

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