Thursday, November 8, 2012

How Having Kids Kills Your Sex Life - Theme Thursday

This week I was asked by the wonderful http://cloudywithachanceofwine.com/ to participate in Theme Thursday. This week’s theme is “How Having Kids Kills Your Sex Life”.  At first I didn’t think I could do this theme cause let me be honest my sex life is dead…right?? Well not completely so after thinking about it for some time here it is.

When I first met my husband we were in our early 20’s. We were in our prime and we took full advantage of the situation. It was all the time….didn‘t matter when or where. Our best was 8 times in one day…hell yeah I’m bragging!!. Now I’m just no longer in the mood. After waking up early, going to work, coming home cooking dinner, doing homework, giving the kids a shower & put them to bed the last thing on my mind is sex. At that point all I want to do is sleep ALONE!!!

v     When we were young our bodies were tight, lean and fit…now after about 10 minutes we have to take a break or one of us will have a heart attack.

v     Let me put it this way; We have two places where the deed is done
  •       In the bathroom (this is what we call being "spontaneous") while I hold on to dear life to the sink
  •       In the "kids bedroom (our kids sleep with me in the big bed)", cause nothing says romance like twin size bunk beds with super Mario & Lightning McQueen cheering you on.

v     Romance now a days is “ok the kids are asleep and I need to go to bed early cause I need to wake up early for work so I can give you a fast 5 minutes…go, go, go”

v     There is no morning sex….the kids always wake up before us

v     There is not spontaneous sex…the kids are always there

v     Having sex for a long time use to be for 2 hrs, now 30 minutes means its his birthday. I never have to buy him a gift anymore!!

v     Lingerie means I’m not wearing grandma underwear

v     Before kids its was 3 to 4 times a week now we’re lucky to do it once a week although once every two weeks is more like it.

Don’t get me wrong, I love my husband and even thought we're not that young anymore and we have so many more responsibilities then before I still find him very attractive, it's just having two full time jobs (work and home) with two small kids is very exhausting. We try to make time for each other but after doing everything we can to make some time for us we’re exhausted from all the work of preparing the time that we end up sleeping or just relaxing on the couch.  We’re hoping once the kids move out we’ll have more time but than we’ll be in our 50’s which will create a whole new set of problems.


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20 comments:

  1. People tell me when the kids get older it gets better....I haven't seen it yet.

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    1. What??? Don't tell me that, its the only thing keeping my husband from leaving!!

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    2. Kevin- that's called Managanda- shit they tell men so they don't decide to go off with the 16 year old babysitter. Not to be confused with Mamaganda- that's like the lie ALL WOMEN with kids tell all the other women that breast feeding burns crazy amounts of calories and will suck all the fat off of you. The perpetrators of these myths are moms that just want all their friends to have kids so they can all hang out again.
      The truth sucks.

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    3. You know what people say "misery loves company"...LOL. Buch of liars. Loose all the weight, bullcrap, all it did is make my already small boobs smaller and go more south which at my size didn't think could happen.

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  2. so I'm seeing a common theme among these blog posts, "I just don't want to." Thank you brave ladies for sharing that - I wasn't so brave in my post - I blamed everything else but most of the time, I just don't want to.

    thanks for joining TT! Hope to see you again!

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    1. It gets to be really hard to "want to" after 2 kids, fat all over the place and no decent place to do it. As much as bathrooms are "romantic" they don't always do it for me.

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  3. I'm still laughing over "holding on to the sink for dear life" ! Hilarious, must make you feel like a college girl, right? Sneaking off during a party. Very funny.

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    1. Except I'm not drunk so the "fun part" is just not that much fun!

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  4. OMG, you are HILARIOUS! I loved the sink part - that's incredibly funny!!! I can just picture it. Oh wait. I don't want to picture it. Sorry!

    I'm so glad you were able to join us this week for Theme Thursday! I hope you'll continue to do so!!!

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    1. Thank you!

      Don't picture it. Its really as terrible as it sounds.


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  5. Hee hee- Thanks for the laugh-
    Yours and everyone on Theme Thursday today has made me smile and more importantly feel not-so-bad about the lack of sex within this house!

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    1. Never feel bad. We did all our dirty deeds before and hopefully after the kids move out. Just keep reminding the hubs of the good old days and he'll forgive you everytime you say "I'm not in the mood"....right, please say right. :)))

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  6. THIS POST IS A GEM!! I am BREATHLESS with laughter. Seriously. Been there, done that with the 'bathroom sex' and crafty 'sink visual'. And the birthday sex...so true. Thanks so much for joining us. You ROCK :-)

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    1. Aww thank you, it means so much that people like to read what I write

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  7. I have actually kept a box (and moved it three times) full of my cute, pre-baby underoos. Yeah. Even if I could wedge them over my, um, voluptuousness, I don't think I could stand it. And given the fact that you've only got 3.6 seconds to get the deed going before the kids wake up, I guess it doesn't matter anymore. Someday?

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    1. So true. Who has time for fancy things. Plus after your hubby hasn't had it in a while he doesn't give a shit about the cute things all he wants is whats under that.

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  8. Yes! Amen to that. I agree - kudos for admitting you just don't want to. I don't either. This topic has been a good one because I feel better reading alm your posts and realizing that although I hear its a universal issue, it really is - here's proof. Damn, I should have the hubby read these so he can stop acting like he's the only guy on the planet who's not gettin' it as often.

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    1. Your husband and every other. I tell mine all the time you're not the only one and he's like oh yes I am, please once you have kids no one is getting it. I don't care what people say, shit is not the same...period. We make adjustments, its all part of life.

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