I was talking to my husband last night about how tired I was/am all.the.time. He’s like why are you so tired? You’re always tired? You should go see a doctor. This isn't normal. Yes it is normal, I already asked countless doctors and they all say the same thing; you have a full time job, two small kids and when you come home from work you have work at home not to mention a useless husband (ok they didn't say the last part but I'm sure they were thinking it). So yes, yes I am tired. I work a full time job outside of my home, than I come home to wash dishes, make dinner, clean the house, wash dinner dishes, give the kids a shower and put them to bed. On a really good night they’re both asleep by 10:30 (this is mostly the little one because he takes afternoon naps in daycare and isn’t tired to sleep at night) and that’s when I can have ME TIME. Of course by that time I’m so tired that me time means going to bed. And tomorrow we start all over again. So as I was about to go take a shower ( a rarity at 8:45) the hubs is like you know once you (notice he said you not even suggesting to say me) put the kids to bed we can do you know what and I’m like go to sleep?? He says no the other. Hell to the fucking no I’m going off to bed. So of course he’s all mad and about to throw a tantrum and I say to him I would love to have your life for one week. 7 days! That would be my perfect Mother’s Day gift. To live my husband’s life for one week.
I would love to come home at 5:30 and be done with work. To have coffee without interruptions. To take a nap. To have someone clean the house, wash dishes and make dinner while I watch TV. To be able to eat dinner without having to get up 100 times to get something for the kids. To eat dinner without having to feed myself and one or two additional persons depending on the night. To finish dinner, get up from the table and go on the computer or watch TV while he finishes feeding the kids & cleaning up. To watch as he moves around the house constantly doing something while I lazily lounge on the couch catching up on missed shows. To hear my kids say dad every 2 minutes because they need something. And than ask him why are you so tired?
To sleep in on the weekends while he wakes up early with the kids, makes breakfast, cleans the house, does the laundry, goes food shopping, makes lunch, cleans up the house again, give kids all the things that they’ve constantly wanted since they woke up every 10 minutes (mommy I’m thirsty, mommy I want a snack, mommy he hit me, mommy can I get an apple NO not that one the other one….you get the point). I would love to be able to wake up on a Saturday and/or Sunday and not have a care in the world. I want to go to our friend’s house and have nothing to do but sit on the couch and talk to my friends. I want to see the husbands prepare dinner, feed the kids, clean up and watch the kids so they’re not killing each other. To truly say I relaxed this weekend.
This is what I want for Mother’s Day. No fancy jewelry, no dinner reservations, no flowers or chocolates. I don’t want anything except for my husband’s life for one week.
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I wanna smack him.
ReplyDeleteI'll send you my address!
DeleteI hope you get it! Maybe you should just boycott your job for the week?
ReplyDeleteMy day job...I can't. Even the night one I can't. I have OCD that won't let me look at a mess and not clean it up. I wish I could. Plus my babies need a good dinner everynight and if I left it up to the hubs they would eat hot dogs and chicken nuggets. I'm just counting the days (years) when they're old enought to take care of themselves so I can relax.
DeleteWhat Jenn said. Seriously. Don't get angry with him. Sit him down and say you're overwhelmed and need him to take on a few more things. Two weeks ago the dishes became my husbands responsibility. If you keep going like that your jokey resentment is going to sour and turn hard. What in the WORLD is his excuse for himself? Or is he that oblivious he doesn't realize you're struggling because of his apathy?
ReplyDeleteIn all honesty he does help when I ask him but I'm tired of asking. I want him to see a mess and clean it up, I want him to know that the kids need a shower tonight and do it without me asking, I want him to wash the dishes without me asking him to do it. I'm tired of asking. I want him to see the things that need to be done and just do them. By the time I ask him I'm like just forget it I'll do it myself. That's my biggest problem. I have to patience for telling people what to do when they should see it themselves. Maybe I'll make a daily list of things that need to be done and he can do them and just put a check next to each one that he's done.
DeleteI love your honesty. I hope Mother's Day is a relaxing one for you!
ReplyDeleteAwww you so sweet. My Mother's Day was awesome! I got to spend it with my kids. I did have housework to do but I'm a mom and there's always something to do.
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